Monday, August 11, 2014
Sunday, August 10, 2014
Jealousy in Brain
Researchers
from University of Haifa
discovered that jealousy is a well developed feeling of envy and gloating in the
game of life “Who is better: you or me?” Do you still compete with somebody you
know? Are you a participant of a rats’ race for being the best?
Rats’ racing life-time marathon: “Who
wins in comparisons?”
Japanese scientists identified
region of the brain which controls feelings of
jealousy (Takahashi et al., 2009).
It is the same part which detects real physical
pain – perhaps explaining why feeling envious of your lover's preference hurts
so much. This “evil eye” spot is also associated with mental pain. The dot
which makes people delight in others' misfortune – is called “schadenfreude”.
We
often evaluate the self and others from social comparisons. We feel envy when
the target person has superior and self-relevant characteristics. Schadenfreude
occurs when envied persons fall from grace.
If
you’re an envious person, you have a hard time appreciating a lot of the good
things that are out there, because you’re too busy worrying about how they
reflect on the self. Jealousy is a false assumption that somebody is better,
sexier, and more attractive then you.
The
question: “Is it worth being that kind of person?”
To
be continued…
Dream
shamelessly…
Natalia
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References
Takahashi, H., Masato Matsuura, Michihiko Koeda,
Noriaki Yahata, Tetsuya Suhara, Motoichiro Kato and Yoshiro Okubo. Brain
Activations during Judgments of Positive Self-conscious Emotion and Positive
Basic Emotion: Pride and Joy. Cerebral Cortex April 2008;18:898--903doi:10.1093/cercor/bhm120
Advance Access publication July 17, 2007.
Two Kittens On the Night Dusty Road
Every
Friday I take my Spanish dog to the small blue lake, where people go fishing
and enjoy picnics.
This
lake is situated several km from the river and beautiful valley where my dog
rushing in the water
and wild fields.
In
the evenings it is not very crowded and the sunset intensifies smells of water,
wild fields, dusty air filled with mowed wheat. Hundreds of crickets sing
their rhythmical songs, bats rush over your head; fish is jumping from water. The
dog watches and frightens frogs, and he sniffs, sniffs and sniffs all around the
territory.
This
Friday we were coming home from the lake in absolute darkness, when all of a
sudden car lights illuminated two tiny kittens, walking along the dusty road at
night, alone…
Apparently,
someone threw them away from their car, kilometers from the inhabited places. Can
you think of a name to that bastard? Is he human? No woman would leave kittens alone,
where foxes, wolves and feral dogs could eat kittens.
They
were very friendly and brave. I took the kittens into the car and placed them under
the front seat. They were sitting quietly, without a singe sound, though the
dog was lying on the back seat.
At
home they eat some cats food and played a little in the grass. The red kitten
and me, liked each other from the first sight. It would get on my shoulder and
purring, licked my cheek, ear and eyes.
I
called it “Sunny” (“Solnyshko” in Russian) and decided to keep it. We are both
red and enjoy each other’s company.
Both
kittens made themselves comfortable on my lap and fell sleep.
The
next morning the kittens started to explore the territory of my garden.
When
my dog and the cat woke up, they would express much interest to both kittens.
The kittens would keep together like fighters,
back-to-back
and stuck together.
The
dog would drive kittens to fruit trees, as if trying them.
At
day time I took the tree colored kitten to the special market for pets. It
would be given to somebody caring and loving. Only she-cats have this unusual
coloring. They are very popular with people, as they bring luck, health and
peace to their homes.
My
Sunny has been washed with special shampoo and now it is wearing anti flea nice collar.
Do you know how kittens smell? They smell sun, home, comfort and happiness!
Maybe, I will write a short story for kids. My Smashwords Publisher will release it in September.
If you have your own stories about pets, send! They will be published in my blog.
Natalia
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+7 928 266 93 13
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Thursday, August 7, 2014
Human Warmth, Where to Find?
One
of the most popular topics in my blog is ‘human warmth’ after anorexia(!). The
thin girls would never be sick with anorexia, if they experienced warmth, i.e.
kindness, fondness, support and understanding in their earlier years with
parents.
Where
to find human warmth if nobody treats you with gentleness, love and tenderness
you need? What if instead of kindness you face false cold smiles and fake sympathy?
You
may create and develop the quality of kindness and sympathy by yourself, in the
world of competition, money and career chase, demands and etc.
Method
Just
sit alone in the place where nobody would disturb you. If you are ready to be
the single compassionate and warm person in your environments without expectations to get the same
kindness in return, we will start with you.
Kindness,
gentleness and warmth are the most normal qualities of our human nature. When
you possess and give them to others, then some sweet substance will appear in
your body and skin.
1.
The process of human warmth creation begins with your own conscious decision ‘to be a hearted, amiable and warm man/woman’.
Just say it out loud. The moment you do it, the substance will appear, by
marvels!
2.
Set the intent to be always human,
kind, warm and loving, by just saying it out loud: “I intend to be always kind,
(the whole list)… Find as many words in all languages you speak, as you can.
Pronounce them all.
You
will be using the phrase:
“I express warmth, kindness, love, compassion …
etc”
in
the processes below.
Why?
Gene
Expression & Loving Smile
By
using this speech pattern “I express…” with genuine emotion, we start the
process of expressing those substances, which we personally mean in blood,
saliva, brain and body tissues. Apparently there begins a process similar to
gene expression.
Gene expression is the process by which information from a gene is used in the synthesis of a functional gene product. These products are often proteins, but in non-protein coding genes such
asribosomal RNA (rRNA), transfer RNA (tRNA) or small nuclear RNA (snRNA) genes, the product is a functional RNA.
The process of gene expression is used by all known life - eukaryotes - to generate the macromolecular machinery for life.
Gene expression
Visualisation of large-scale
gene expression studies, such as those carried out using DNA chip systems, to
form a clustered gene expression network. Each dot represents a gene, and links
between dots occur where there is a certain level of correlation between their
expression patterns. Genes with very similar expression profiles link to many
other dots and form clusters shown in the same colour. The clusters are
3-dimensional with larger dots existing in the foreground space and smaller
ones further away.
Learning and Memory:
Controlled Gene Expression in the Nervous System
When you feel caring or love for someone or something,
you smile and this smile is flowing down through your body. …“Taoist sages say
that when you smile, your organs release a honey-like secretion which nourishes
the whole body.” (Chia, 1985, p 33). Modern research backs up the powerful
effects of smiling and laughing, as described by Norman Cousins in his account
of curing illness by their use (Cousins, 1989). Imagining the smile flowing
down through your body is in itself likely to promote relaxation and healing.
Remembering a time when you felt caring has a
particularly powerful healing effect. Dr David C. McClelland and Carol Kirshnit
of Boston University has published a study which clearly explains much of the
effect of the Inner Smile (McClelland and Kirshnit, 1988, p 31-52). In this
research, subjects are shown a variety of movies, and their level of
Immunoglobulin A (the first line of defence against viruses and other
pathogens) is monitored before and after. Gardening films and political
propaganda have no effect, but a film of Mother Teresa caring for people in
Calcutta caused a sharp rise in levels of the immune chemical. Interestingly,
many of the subjects in this study, when questioned after, said that they did
not approve of Mother Teresa and doubted the genuineness of her work. But their
bodies didn’t mind. Their immunity level rose anyway. The fact that they had
held the visual images of caring in their mind was more important than the
theories they considered about it. In the same way, you don’t need to believe
in the Inner Smile for it to work” (In Bolstad, 2001, pp 44-45).
Love and Kindness Creation
Process
Firstly,
we shall deal with your past.
Go
and find your albums or just photographs of you as a child, with all your
friends and people, who are still dear to you now. Express and send kindness,
understanding, love or whatever you find as good to each person and you - very young and inexperienced.
It is not pity you are sending,
just love and understanding. You can do it with words or gestures, caressing
people and yourself on the pictures with your hands. This process might raise
the storm of emotions, tears, crying… but it is good. Even if some of your
beloved people are no longer alive, express your warmth and gratitude for them;
they are part of your past.
In
case you have no pictures of people you want to thank or warm up, just write
their names on paper. Talk to them, touching their written names with love. The
effect is as strong as with photos. When you caress them even in the air with
your hands, your entire body is involved. You blood, skin and nerve cells will
be filling with sweet substance of wellness and health.
No
alcohol will be good for this process, as you understand. Just stay sober and fresh. Cry as much as it needs.
Secondly,
we shall deal with your present life.
1.
You can use photos, even in your computer. Say good and warm words of fondness,
support, sincere compliments to each person you like and value. They need it!
2.
If you do not have their pictures, just write down their names and talk to each
of them, caressing the written lines. It may happen so, that you did not dare
to utter good and loving words in their presence. You can do it now! Somehow,
your warmth will be delivered to them through loving you universe.
You
may also imagine them being nearby or in front of you. Caress the air – their visible or absolutely
transparent image – with gentle words or loving movements. This very moment
they would feel loved, happy, protected…no matter how far they are from you. It
is the mystery, but fact.
It
may turn out, that you have not a soul you would like to express your kindness
or love. Just think of beaten, humiliated and starving kids somewhere in the
world, who need to be loved, calmed, defended and caressed right now. You will
immediately know what to do!
Thirdly,
we shall deal with your future.
If
you are not in love currently, think about qualities of a person you will meet
or find in the nearest future. Express all love, gentleness and warmth to them
the way you are already capable to do now. You will recognize that person by
their qualities, not appearance.
In
other words, you are loved and valued when you are very human…
This
is it!
There
are also such incredible secrets, that
you will be living and flying like me, without drugs and alcohol…gaining success
in every area of life…
Life
is fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Natalia
Levis-Fox,
Tel.:
+7 928 266 93 13
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practice, on-line consultations
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No 314265119000560
References
- Bolstad, R and Hamblett, M. Pro-fusion: Creating A Life Of Abundance With Neuro Linguistic Programming And Energy Work. Transformations International. Christchurch, New Zealand. 2002.
- Chia, M. Taoist Ways To Transform Stress Into Vitality, Healing Tao Books, Huntington, New York, 1985.
- Cousins, N. Head First: The Biology Of Hope, Dutton, New York, 1989.
- McClelland, D. C. and Kirshnit, C. “The Effect Of Motivational Arousal Through Films On Immunoglobulin A” in Psychology and Health, 2, 1988, p 31-52.
Art: Fluffy Multicolored Tapestry
I wanted to show you my art of fluffy
multicolored tapestry creation.
This is an ancient and simple technique of making beautiful things for your home.
The
process is long and pleasant, as you weave not only hand-made wool fibers into the cloth, but
your best loving feelings and emotions.
Anyone
can do it to make your home warm and human, filled with tenderness…
My home office for consulting & art studio
Natalia
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+7 928 266 93 13
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