“Self-Confidence” is self-assurance in oneself or one's own abilities.
"Without
self-confidence we are as babes in the cradle"
Virginia
Woolf.
Today we shall speak about ‘Self-Confidence’ and how to measure its
current level of with 100% accuracy.
The lack of Self-Confidence, or feeling under-confident
in specific areas of life, makes many people struggle with it their
entire lives.
No one sets out to get stuck in a job they
don't like because they don’t have the Self-Confidence to change jobs or start
their own business.
No one sets out to get stuck in a
disempowering relationship or social circle, surrounded by people who don't
really love and care about them.
No one sets out to be indecisive and
procrastinate.
No one sets out to be nervous and anxious
in social situations.
No one set out to struggle financially.
No one sets out to be unhealthy,
overweight and out of shape.
But even though you may not have
intentionally set out to have these things in your life, it's a safe bet that
some or all of them affect your life in one way or another.
Unfortunately, these kinds of problems
usually don't solve themselves. More often than not, they actually get worse.
A mediocre career doesn't suddenly get better. It acts like a
slow sinking ship over a period of years.
A bad financial situation (too much debt, not earning enough
money, not experiencing financial flow) doesn't magically fix itself.
A disempowering social circle or relationship situation
doesn't suddenly become uplifting and supportive. Usually it drags you down
further with each passing year.
An inability to respond confidently in social situations,
meet new people, or ask for a date doesn’t suddenly get better over time.
A battle with your weight or lack of exercise won’t change by
buying the next exercise gadget or reading another diet book.
Without the Self-Confidence to change these situations, we
often feel stuck. Rather than making the changes, we turn to multiple forms of
distraction -- web surfing, TV, video games, compulsive drinking, smoking,
eating, drugs, etc. Deep down, the lack of Self-Confidence and dissatisfaction
builds because we know our lives have gotten way off track.
But how do we fix it? – Let’s take a look.
You can only go for so many years dealing with boring jobs,
inadequate finances, unsupportive relationships, and destructive health habits.
Eventually those things will begin to erode your Self-Confidence.
Seriously now... isn't it much better to admit that we need
to handle our Self- Confidence issues as opposed to denying we have them?
Lots of people succumb to denial. They act like they're
growing, evolving and successful, when in reality nothing is significantly changing
for them.
So how can you determine if you can use some help in building
your Self- Confidence?
There is a simple formula that will measure your current
Level of Self-Confidence with 100% accuracy.
The first step is to look at your life and see if there is
any evidence that you're significantly better off now vs. 90 days ago.
What amazing results have you accomplished during that time?
The second step is to give each result a number from 1-10.
“1”
would be nothing has changed, and “10”
would be significant progress.
If you're really confident in EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE and
making progress, you should be able to name a number of significant
breakthroughs that occurred during the last 90 days, and they should be
objective and observable.
Circle each one and rate them from 1-10. Some examples of
specific results include:
Fulfilling work or business projects you completed.
1—2—3—4—5--6—7—8—9—10
A positive shift in your finances (Where are you now vs. 90
days ago? Did your income go up? Did your debt go down? Do you have more money
or assets? Fewer liabilities? Did you make some intelligent investments?)
1—2—3—4—5--6—7—8—9—10
A positive change in your relationships (What evidence is
there that you deepened your current relationships? Broke off an unhealthy
relationship? Added empowering new friends to your social circle?)
1—2—3—4—5--6—7—8—9—10
A positive change in your
health status (Did you lose fat? Did you gain strength, flexibility, or endurance? Did you
adopt some positive new health habits?)
1—2—3—4—5--6—7—8—9—10
What does your recent past and your rating from 1-10 say
about your Current Level of Self Confidence? If there's little or no evidence
that significant change has occurred in EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE within the past
90 days, it's safe to say you're stuck and you lack Self-Confidence in those
specific areas.
And if you can't see any real measurable progress over the
past year, then you are REALLY stuck!
To be continued…
Natalia Levis-Fox
