Each
of us has a special apparatus of recognizing people and their qualities.
It
is of double origin coming of:
1. Nature
itself. On the biological level, we feel immediately, if this or that
person is good to us. If the person is good, then we have the same substances
in the body, brain and blood. It is biological unity between people. It makes
us feeling physically good in each other’s presence and even in memory about
certain events.
The
most vivid example of natural likeness is the state of alcoholic intoxication. Drunken
people have the same biology for a short period.
French friends, wine makers
Alcohol
releases dopamine – the neurosubstances of feeling good, brave and daring
and endorphins - that produce feelings of pleasure
and reward.
Read my articles “Why Alcohol Is Addicting? (Part
I)
Why Alcohol Is Addicting? (Part II)
The
same natural mechanisms are true about sex relationships. You have erotic
desire only towards a man or a woman, who is biologically good for your body as
experience maximum sexual pleasure and satisfying intensity of orgasms. Heterosexual
relationships are complimentary on physical level. Homosexual pairs are formed
mostly on social acceptance and the lack of tenderness from opposite gender.
2.Mind-Heart
unity. On the intellectual and emotional levels, we immediately understand
if we have similar human qualities with another person. If you are kind,
friendly, intelligent, clever, tender, advantageous, etc, then you will
immediately recognize these qualities in another person. It usually happens
unconsciously, skipping our conscious analysis at the initial stage of acquaintance
or social contacts.
If your
qualities (ex, kindness, friendliness, cleverness, intelligence, advantageousness,
tenderness, etc) are missing in another person – they would never understand
and value you as a personality and a human being…
On the
contrary, if both people possess the same qualities and the likewise biology,
they feel incredible comfort in each other’s presence. This is how best friends
appear as well as couples with lovely relationships are formed.
Conclusion.
We understand,
want to know, appreciate and deal only with those people who have many things
in common with us.
Send
good words and wishes to those you value and understand.
Natalia
Levis-Fox,
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