Yesterday
we discussed a very important topic with you. It concerns the origin of inner
mental strategy - reading other people’s
thoughts.
Read
Part 1 from my blog at
Mental
strategy is the succession of our experience elements to gain certain results.
This is how it happens with people who practice ‘mind reading’.
You find yourself in a novel situation with unknown
people →
you feel a little uneasy, as you can not run your usual behavior and
control the situation and people involved
→ you need to be valued highly by people participated → you
start wondering ‘what do they think of me?’
Sometimes,
if you are completely involved in the situation, you can not analyse it
spontaneously, i.e. at that moment. So, you do your analysis afterwards, wondering what impression you had produced
and what they were thinking of you…
There
is always a question: WHY?
Why
do you need to know their opinion about you?
Now,
ask this question and answer it earnestly! Take as much time as it needs to
find out your intention. Even if finding out may hurt you…
My
professional experience tells that people who practice ‘mind reading’ want to find out if they
are really good, nice, sexy, attractive.
intelligent, worthy, etc for people they like themselves or consider
important.
Why do you need to be appreciated and judged
positively?
The
answer might shock you.
You
were addicted to live by somebody else’s opinion!
And not your own.
Digging the
past is not good. By doing this we mix
our current energy of mature and intelligent people with the energy of childish fear to be rejected and not loved, i.e.
make the ‘horrible cocktail’ of bitterness and disgust.
It is like pouring mustard into your wonderful
coffee
I
can tell you only one thing. People who love and value you, accept you the way
you are! They feel affection for you and value your personal qualities, appearance,
skills, etc. People who approve you, never criticise you. Never!
If
you ever had a pet: a dog, a cat, a horse or any other animal, you know this
feeling. They would always be happy in your presence, greet your coming with
joy and fondness. They never doubted your character or appearance, your hair
color, height, skills, speech. They just
love you, the way you are!
It
is true about people’s fondness. Either they do not care about you, are
neutral towards you or they worship you.
Of
course, animals can not substitute warm human communication. On the other hand,
you can not be nice to everybody in this world to be loved and valued the way
you want and need it.
You
can not change your past, though some people manage to re-record it on their
own terms and believe. There is a method for doing this and you can apply it,
if it makes you feel better.
So,
what can you do, If you do not like your ‘mind reading’ habit and wondering
“What they think of me?”
Just
give it up! Express your gratitude for this habit. This habit was teaching you be better and
achieve your best results.
But
there is a BUT!
When you give up this habit, consciously and
willingly,
you will find out that you live in a miserable social environment!
You
will discover that you deal with people, who are as unsatisfied as you are. People
play games just to be liked and valued… They are afraid to be lonely… It is not easy. Are
you ready for that?
Go
and find people you like: frank, open
and really friendly, as yourself.
P.S.
My patients and colleagues often wonder where all my knowledge and healing methods
come from. From my own personal
experience. As a child I was abused, beaten, pressed and ignored. I have a
curious mind of a scientist with huge experience in university teaching,
research, training and clinical practice.
I
had given up the ‘mind reading’ habit, purified my personal space and
environment. Very few people remained with me. I do not play stupid games “who
is better here?”. And I would never go to places with ugly people.
Call now +7 928 266 93 13
and
we will find the best solutions for you, together.
I
value people who seek for better life,
Natalia
Levis-Fox
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