Men: Shyness & Trouble in Accepting Compliments

Why do some men have trouble accepting compliments?

The real issue here is wrapped up in low self-esteem, which we do not often associate with men. But they have to deal with that just like women do, even though it plays out in their lives is slightly different ways.

Low self-esteem is a learned behavior. There are almost always particular experiences that play into a man's shyness or embarrassment around taking a compliment.

The thing is that this type of men lived all their lives in rather poor or limited social (women’s) environments. In this atmosphere, compliments are not considered as a normal thing.

When you have something going wrong for a long period of time (not the way you prefer), you tend to try and grow yourself a Teflon coating to protect your heart and soul. Instead of being a contented love sponge, you're more of a non-stick surface that nothing can penetrate... Not even a sincere, loving compliment.

It feels deeply pleasurable to give a sincere compliment, but receiving one takes more work. In order to successfully receive a compliment, you have to be confident in yourself and in the sincerity of the person who's saying the nice thing about you. If you are feeling at all vulnerable or insecure, it can be nearly impossible to gracefully receive a compliment.

So, if you are sort of ‘shy’ in receiving compliments from women, belonging to different social groups (from yours) and you are not sure about the sincerity of received compliments, you may do the following things:

1. Take as a fact the notion of “compliment” as some wonderful input into your personality. The notion comes from Italian word complimento – “expression of respect and civility”.

2. Take a sheet a paper and write all compliments you received from different women in different periods of life.

Make a table: ‘compliment’ → ‘woman’ → ‘her social group/status’

3. When the list is ready. Check out, which of the received compliments correspond to your own understanding of you and resonate with your skills and personal qualities, etc.

The points of mutual coincidence bear witness that this woman or women understand and value you the way you are! Their compliments are always sincere.

You trigger "high value" circuits in their mental ‘model of great men’.

This "high value" model of you can be easily created within minutes! With these circuits and model, you will be treated like a King in every social group.

This professional secret will be yours during our one-hour on-line consultation.

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Natalia Levis-Fox

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How Travel Makes You a Better Person

 

#1: Travel Reveals the Big Picture

It's funny how we lose ourselves in our own lives, sometimes so deep that we can't separate our daily existence from the broader perspective. Being away from routine and the same people you meet every day forces you to see your life from the outside. It also makes it simpler to admit to yourself when something – a dead-end job or a going-nowhere relationship – is not working out for you. And this takes us into our next point.

 

#2: Travel Reminds You What Is Really Important

Maybe you had a hobby you've given up. Maybe you loved one part of your job above all else. Maybe there is one ambition buried away beneath everything else. When the familiar is stripped away, you see with astonishing clarity what it is that rocks your boat. You'll question why you stopped doing what you enjoyed, and start trying to figure out how to build your life around it again.

 

#3: Travel Reveals Who You Love + Why You Love Them

When you travel, you miss everything beloved – from your favorite brand of coffee to your softest pair of pajamas. But you won't miss the people who filled your life but weren't really that important to you. Travel is the easiest way to separate the acquaintances from those who are truly special. You'll see them with more clarity too, and remember what it is you love about them most.

 

#4: Travel Makes You More Adaptable

If there is one constant in a traveller's life, it is that travel will throw up situations that challenge you. You can make the most detailed itinerary, plan your trip perfectly, and then feel the carpet swept from under you the next minute. You'll go through anger, denial and frustration, and hopefully, finally, you'll learn to laugh at it.

 

#5: Travel Makes You Grateful

Whether you travel from a developed country to a developing country, or vice-versa, there will come a moment when you are grateful for all you have. When you see people who manage on far less in a year than you do in a month. Or meet someone with one leg who is hiking up a hill, you'll close your eyes for a second and utter a quite, thank you.

 

#6: Travel Opens Your Personality Up

Think about your life back home, when you worked and had an apartment. With the exception of maybe trying out a new restaurant or a weekend holiday class, when was the last time you did something new? Out of your comfort zone? You probably don't even remember. But when you're on the road, simply ordering lunch can be a task. You'll find yourself shedding your old skin of defense mechanisms, stereotypes and anxieties, and taking on a lot more than you ever thought you were capable of.

 

#7: Travel Hones Your Social Skills

Are you shy? Unwilling to trust fate? Are you mistrusting of other people's goodness? Travel will take care of all that. Most of us hold our prejudices and flaws close to ourselves, look at them as protectors of our precious emotions. Essentially, we use them as nothing more than excuses. You might not talk to everyone you meet, but you'll be forced to interact with many, many more people than you're used to, sometimes not even in your language.

 

#8: Travel Teaches You to Do Without

At home, we build our little nests and we line them with gadgets, books, art, music, clothes and food. Then we sit down and admire them and tell ourselves that we couldn't live without them. But when you travel, your nest is suddenly downsized to the bare minimum. You're now living a very full life without those high thread-count sheets or fluffy towels. And you realize you'll be just fine without them. (Which is not to say you won't go and buy them again when you get back. We all have our weaknesses!)

 

#9: Travel Reintroduces You to Yourself

In the midst of museum-traipsing, people-watching, meal-planning, map-reading, budget-checking and ticket-booking, one day you'll have an epiphany. It could range from something as small as "I don't like sushi because I don't like squishy food" to "I don't like my job because it doesn't feel like I'm making a difference". But it's a truth about yourself and it's likely that it's come from a meeting with a backpacker who was travelling to teach in a village, or last night's experiments with sushi. And you've just learned a little more about yourself.

Experiences both good and bad are out there, waiting to meld and twist your personality into something new and fabulous. So book your tickets for that long trip, by all means. But know that you won't be the same when you return.

Source of article at http://www.mindpowernews.com/BetterTravel.htm

Do you travel much?

Where do you find adventures?

Or do you live without adventures?

Natalia Levis-Fox

www.natalialevisfox.com