Continued
from “Jealousy in Brain”
Can jealousy be healed? YES! When I
got stuck in jealousy myself, I made an extensive scientific research and wrote
the book.
Natalia Levis-Fox. “Secret of
Healing Jealousy”. 2010. Smashwords Inc.
The secret of healing jealousy
consists of 3 stages:
1. You form the intelligence of a attractive
personality
2. You master the art of creating love-making
imagination, the way it suits you
3. You apply the ‘Love Formula’ to
feel loved, sexy and desired.
I
Step: Knowledge
Nothing cures better than knowledge.
When you know the evil, you stop doing things unconsciously. Jealousy is
nothing but a habit!
Scientific research discovered that jealousy-related behaviors such as
intimate partner violence and morbid jealousy are more common in males. Studies
suggest that men and women have different modules to process cues of sexual and
emotional infidelity.
Jealousy typically involves
three people and occurs when one fears losing someone to another person. Envy
typically involves two people and occurs when one lacks something enjoyed by
another. We often evaluate self and others from social comparisons. We feel
envy when the target person has superior and self-relevant characteristics.
Japanese
researchers (Takahashi et al., 2009) identified
the “Evil spot” in brain, which controls both jealousy and envy.
Evil spot
It is the same part which detects real physical pain
and is also associated with mental pain –
perhaps explaining why feeling envious of your lover's philandering ways hurts
so much.
Try to imagine that your loved one has become
romantically interested in someone else.
And then try to envision which scenario would bother
you more: (a) learning that your partner has fallen in love with that person or
(b) discovering that your partner has had meaningless sex with that person.
Obviously, both situations are painful to think about,
but chances are one of these bothers you more than the other. And just as
likely, your gender has a lot to do with which one causes you the most anguish.
Both men and women experience jealousy and according
to David Buss, Ph.D., professor of evolutionary psychology at the University of
Texas, this is both healthy and necessary to the fitness of a faithful
relationship.
In “The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is As
Necessary As Love and Sex,"
Buss describes his survey of women and men in the United States, the
Netherlands, Germany, Japan, Korea and Zimbabwe.
The majority of women interviewed were troubled more
about a partner's emotional infidelity (Does he love her?), while the men were
most upset about sexual transgressions (Did she have sex with him?).
Can
jealousy be used positively? Yes!
Since
you know its origin – social comparison in favor of another person and fear to
lose your beloved one – you have an excellent chance to become a better person
and learn to dream about fantastic relationships.
Jealous people are known to create
big & detailed mental pictures of their partners’ infidelity. As the
result, they suffer intensively. It was discovered that brain as does not
distinguish between imagery and real objects (Pearson
et al., 2008).
Structure of Jealousy
Like
any other unpleasant emotional state, jealousy is nothing but a well-formed
skill. It functions in the automatic regime, and is characterized by the
absence of flexibility. This is how it works.
1. People create images of infidelity in details
2. These magnified in size images or even imagined films trigger an
acute and long lasting emotion - SUFFERING
3. Between these skills there’s a regular process which repeats many
times.
In
other words: you imagine the act of infidelity and suffer. It’s clear, is it
not?
Jealousy is a self-imposed
black magic which controls our life against our will.
II
Step: Love-Making Imagination
The process of healing jealousy continues
with learning to create wonderful images and ‘dream films’ about the desirable
scenes of love-making.
Research from UC San Diego explains
us the reason for such a advantageous outcome. “Keeping your eye on the right
prize” i.e. your dream of ideal relations,
activates regions of the brain implicated in anticipating and tracking rewards
(Serences et al., 2006; 2007; 2008). Rewarding
images alter neural activation in many areas of the human visual system, which
responds more strongly to objects of value (i.e. what is more important to
you).
Analysis revealed that rewards altered neural
activation in many areas of the human visual system, including the very first
visually responsive region of the brain, the area of the cortex known as
"V1," which is associated with representing basic features such as
edge orientations and color.
The study also found activation in the frontal
and parietal regions of the brain previously implicated in anticipating and
tracking rewards.
These
areas were very active when one choice was much more valuable than the other, suggesting, that these regions may provide signals to bias
visual processing and so have a greater impact on decision-making and
behavior.
Yellow circles are the
visual areas that respond strongly to valuable objects.
Not everybody can see or create bright images.
(a) Instead, you may dream kinesthetically, i.e. experience by body,
feeling touchings and caressings through skin and genitals.
(b) Or, you can tell stories about desired love-making experience.
(c) Practice the combination of all
modalities, just the way you like.
The
more often you dream, the better your relationships become, as you attract the
novel and fresh energy for erotic love and satisfying sex. Without these,
relationships are empty!
III.
Love Formula
I
developed the ‘Love Formula’ – a simple and
elegant solution to your problem of jealousy. You feel good, nice and healthy.
When you decide to create any quality and make your life a fantastic adventure,
apply the Love Formula. Fill its components with desired features, sing the
formula for several days and you get what you want!
It
took me only 3 days to get rid of jealousy with the Love Formula. Currently, I
am in love, months and months of wonderful feeling. This is what love makes
with you. You become a better personality, you feel happy, inspired. No
jealousy can approach you!
You
can use this formula from another book, published by Smashwords Inc.
Natalia Levis-Fox. “The Love Formula”.
Or
you may call me Tel.: +7 928 266 93 13
and we shall easily heal you…
Love,
Natalia
Levis-Fox,
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References
and links
- Takahashi, H., Masato Matsuura, Michihiko Koeda, Noriaki Yahata, Tetsuya Suhara, Motoichiro Kato and Yoshiro Okubo. Brain Activations during Judgments of Positive Self-conscious Emotion and Positive Basic Emotion: Pride and Joy. Cerebral Cortex April 2008;18:898--903doi:10.1093/cercor/bhm120 Advance Access publication July 17, 2007.
- Buss, D. The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is As Necessary As Love and Sex, The Free Press, N.Y., 2000.
- Salk Institute. Brains response to visual stimuli helps us to focus on what we should see, rather than all there is to see
- Pearson et al. The Functional Impact of Mental Imagery on Conscious Perception. Current Biology, 2008; DOI: 10.1016/j.cub.2008.05.048
- Serences, J. T. Value-Based Modulations in Human Visual Cortex. DOI 10.1016/j.neuron.2008.10.051.
- Serences, J.T., Yantis, S. (2006) Selective visual attention and perceptual coherence. Trends in Cognitive Science. 10(1):38-45.
- Serences, J.T., Yantis, S. (2007) Spatially-selective representations of voluntary and stimulus-driven attentional priority in human occipital, parietal, and frontal cortex. Cerebral Cortex, Feb;17(2):284-93.
- Serences, J.T., Boynton, G.M. Feature-based attentional modulations in the absence of direct visual stimulation. Neuron 2007 Jul 19;55(2):301-12.
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