I
have 3 unfinished books:
1.
“Pain? Gone!”
2.
“Your Amazing Future”
3.
“Out of alcohol!”
Natalia Levis-Fox. “Out of alcohol!” 2014. Smashwords Inc.
First 2 chapters are free either from my
Publisher at
Or from my website in PDF format at
I
postponed their completion as I did not know the answer to the simple question:
“Is it good to love yourself?”
The
notions “Yourself”and “Myself” are often used in everyday life. Usually people
mean them(selves) as personality, the way they are.
Western
Psychotherapy and Psychology insist on ‘loving yourself’ and consider it
healthy. Right?
Then
comes another question: “What is My Self?”
As
usual, if I do not understand something, I make an extensive research, both
scientific and conceptual, until the answer satisfies me. Apparently, you may
do such things as well.
In
broader meaning “Myself / Yourself” means the outer world as you understand it.
In personal meaning, it is your personality and knowledge.
There
is one more meaning as applied to “Myself/Yourself”. It may describe the potential each of us has at the disposal.
This potential is in the air, right in front of us, so we can inhale it.
When
I got rid of alcohol 13 years ago, I got rid of the Ego, supporting it. Ego is
the idea, concept about each of us in its individuality. In most cases this
Ego, or Self, was formed under unfavorable conditions, in childhood or in our
teens. It was at that time, as some of us were told: “Look at yourself!”,
meaning to get out of your body and watch your own behavior, as if you are an
observer to criticize yourself. This is how the separation in consciousness occurs.
Mother angry with her son
In
Psychology we say that there appears a ‘criticizing
part’, which interferes into your wellness with the manners, intonation and
speech patterns of your parents or caregivers or educators. This part ruins your moods. To get rid of its
imposing mode, people do crazy things or silence it with alcohol.
This ‘criticizing
part’ acts as your body-guard against pleasure, joy and relaxed happiness.
It makes you suspicious and doubtful
either about your human qualities & appearance, or sincere words,
compliments and good feelings from other people for you.
Most
often this part – a foreign installation – does both: it creates doubts and mistrust
against your own will of a grown-up person, who had gained considerable success
in many life areas.
This
part acts against you, by itself.
You fight it, as if there are two of you: good
and bad
It
makes you either love yourself or fight against you!
In
both cases you prefer to close yourself (as a personality) from other people
with your own real opinions about them and yourself.
So you live ‘with a lock’ and this part eats your
potential…
It makes you respect and appreciate yourself…
Value, admire and be proud of yourself,
as others do not bother with your success and are
busy with themselves…
Since
this part eats up your potential with its childish stupidity, rigidity and
lack of intelligence, it demands “What do you think of me?”, appreciation and
respect from others.
It makes you be showy
and it requires admiration…
This
is how people learn to love, appreciate and value themselves. There is nothing
wrong with it, right?
Let
us consider this process of ‘self love’ from another angle. For instance, you
as a man, love yourself with your own male’s love. What energy do you have in your body…
…when two men love each other?..
When you look for a female
and find her,
…your loving self will be standing between you
and her…
…demanding respect and appreciation from her…
You also compare yourself with other men
and feel envy or jealousy, thanks to this part
If
this female is intoxicated with her own self love like you…
…you will never understand and listen to each
other…
Your locks-parts will be fighting and quarrelling
And
the very last thing.
Do
you understand what ‘to be yourself’ means? It
means to be rigid with repeated thoughts and
same models of behavior as it was all previous years!
Since
you read this article up to the end, you recognized something familiar.
Knowledge
is healing…
…it is the key…
…which opens old padlocks of stagnation and origin of pain…
if you choose, of course…
...or live with this stupid part all your life...
Your
teaser,
Natalia
Levis-Fox,
Private
practice, on-line consultations
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