Continued
from NLP: How to Read People (Part 2)
Yesterday we learned with
you how brain processes our experience. Today we shall learn how our experience
manifests itself through our eyes movement. When we understand the principle,
we can read people. This skill is very good in questioning (ex. in police) or
in defining person’s leading modality
- Visual (really seen or imaged)
- Auditory (really heard or created, lies)
- Kinesthetic (feelings, sensations or actions)
- Auditory digital (inner self-talk)
of accessing to past experience or
decision-making.
Suppose the person claims
that he saw some event, i.e. witnessed it, with his own eyes. Knowing how our
eyes movements elicit the origin of information in brain, we can tell, if the
person is telling the truth or just heard the sounds or re-tells the
information from somebody else’s vision and story.
You might ask, how
reliable is this method of reading people within seconds? The thing is that
when we remember any experience, our eyes change their position. Each position lightens
up the corresponding cortex area, where the events, feelings, sensations,
sounds, words thoughts, ideas and meanings are processed (Day, 1964).
The standard NLP diagram of accessing cues (below) shows eyes positions for
different types of experience in a “normally organised” right
handed person.
The visual thinking draws the eyes up.
Up left – the person recalls what they saw with
their own eyes.
Up right – the person creates images
(of ideal state of affairs, the way they love it)
The
auditory thinking draws the eyes to the sides
To the left- the person remembers what they heard
with their own ears
To the right – the person invents or creates
auditory information
In case the eyes move quickly left-right (we say
that eyes run)
- it is the typical case of telling lies
Note that auditory digital
is placed down on the left side (suggesting that all the accessing cues on that
side may correspond to the dominant hemisphere, where verbal abilities are
known to be processed). In left handed subjects, this eye pattern is reversed
about 50% of the time.
The kinesthetic thinking
draws the eyes down to the right.
The person checks what they felt in this or that situation,
or what feelings and sensations they would experience in future.
The auditory digital
(inner talk) thinking draws the eyes down to the left
The person can think about something at this moment or check what they
had thought /made decision about the matter in the past
As you understand, this
type of reading people has nothing in common with their ‘mind reading’, i.e. the
contents of their thoughts or experience. The harm of mind reading and its
origin you can discover in 2 articles from this blog at
Human eyes move very
quickly. So you need some practice to master the skill.
DO NOT TRY to track your
own eyes movements to correspond to the general NLP pattern, common to
right-handed people. You may have your own eyes movements style.
In some cases our wise
nature changes the typical patterns. For instance, instead of position of
auditory recall
auditory
recall
your nature may insert a
visual recall.
visual recall
By doing so, your
wonderful nature protects you from internally hearing/perceiving information from people
you hate or those, who had harmed you!
Some highly intelligent
people have quite different eyes movement patterns. So you will not read them,
using standard cues,
as they have direct and immediate access to information.
They just look straight up, forward or down.
They just look straight up, forward or down.
The rapid succession of
movements forms people’s thinking & decision-making strategies, by which
professionals (investigators, consultants, therapists, doctors, salesmen, etc)
can elicit reliable information about their interlocutors.
How to master the skill of
reading people by their eyes movements?
You can ‘read’ people on
TV, especially interviews.
For instance, the President of Russian Federation
Vladimir Putin,
shows the following mental
strategy in his interviews before answering questions:
1. He recalls information he had seen with his own eyes (and never uses data he had heard from somebody else)
2. He checks kinesthetically,
how it feels personally
3. He checks his own
thoughts and opinions about matters under discussion
4. He gives the answer.
The whole process takes
1-2 seconds.
Of course, there are
plenty other aspects of human communication which are left hidden from you.
But you can also master
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References
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- Bandler, R. Using Your Brain For A Change Real People Press, Moab, Utah, 1985
- Bolstad, R. and Hamblett, M. “Visual Digital: Modality of the Future?” in NLP World, Vol 6, No. 1, March 1999
- Bolstad, R. “Putting The “Neuro” Back Into NLP” Christchurch, NZ. 2003.
- Day, M. “An Eye Movement Phenomenon Relating to Attention, Thoughts, and Anxiety” in Perceptual Motor Skills, 1964
- Dilts, R. Roots Of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Meta Publications, Cupertino, California, 1983
- Dilts, R., Grinder, J., Bandler, R. and DeLozier, J. Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Volume 1 The Study of the Structure of Subjective Experience, Meta Publications, Cupertino, California, 1980.
- Hoffman, D.D. Visual Intelligence W.W. Norton & Co., New York, 1998
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