Consulting clients as well as just talking to people displayed a very odd tendency.
People avoid talking about pleasure. Even the word itself is very rarely even pronounced.
Instead, people eagerly talk about pain and feel sorry for each other about hurting and unhappy situations.
Why? Did you ask yourself about it? Do you know the answer?
Cross-cultural research indicates that a pleasure-prone personality rarely displays violence or aggressive behaviors, and a violent personality has little ability to tolerate, experience, or enjoy sensuously pleasing activities. As either violence or pleasure goes up, the other goes down.
Nevertheless, people are constantly in search of new forms of pleasure, yet most of our 'pleasure' activities appear to be substitutes for the natural sensory pleasures of touching. These include:
- seeking for social approval
- alcohol and drugs
- self-show, etc.
We touch for pleasure or for pain or we don't touch at all. The deprivation of physical sensory pleasure is the principal root cause of violence. Laboratory experiments with animals show that pleasure and violence have a reciprocal relationship, that is, the presence of one inhibits the other.
The reciprocal relationship of pleasure and violence is highly significant because certain sensory experiences during the formative periods of development will create a neuropsychological predisposition for either violence-seeking or pleasure-seeking behaviors later in life.
A lack of tender, loving patting, caressing touches and emotional approval - sensory deprivation, somatosensory deprivation in childhood – form the basis of pain in adulthood. We explore this topic in our international project
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Brandt F. Steele and C. B. Pollock, psychiatrists at the University of Colorado, who studied child abuse in three generations of families who physically abused their children, found that parents who abused their children were invariably deprived of physical affection themselves during childhood and that their adult sex life was extremely poor.
Unsatisfied, people reprimand and accuse others in their problems
How many of us feel like assaulting someone
after we have just experienced orgasm?
(James W. Prescott, 1975)
Aristotle (Nichomachean Ethics, Book 7) indicates that the reciprocal relationship between pleasure and pain, and recognized that a compulsive search for bodily pleasure originates from a state of bodily discomfort and pain. “We must now explain why the pleasures of the body appear to be more desirable. The first reason, then, is that pleasure drives out pain. When men experience an excess of pain, they pursue excessive pleasure and bodily pleasure in general, in the belief that it will remedy the pain. These remedial (pleasures) become very intense—and that is the very reason why they are pursued because they are experienced in contrast with their opposite. (Nichomachean Ethics, Book 7)
As a left-handed child, I experienced physical abuse myself. My father used a leather belt for beating me. When I turn back now, I understand that my life with my parents in a socially ‘well-to-do’ family was like living in a camp of enemies. This low quality life extended to now, no matter how competent and prosperous I am now.
Yet, long standing research, desire to find solutions expressed itself in my new book
Natalia Levis-Fox. “Pain? Gone!”
It will be published at the end of August as an ebook. It contains easy explanations and nice methods in developing receptors and information substance for physical pleasure.
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