Friday, January 11, 2013

Psychology of Pleasure: Truth about the Truth

Did you know that your own truth about yourself and events is the main in this world?

Did you use, follow or believe somebody else’s truth?

Foreign truth (i.e. imposed by other people) often hurts, even physically!
On the contrary, your own truth is pleasant and comforting.

Of course, nobody argues or doubts so-called ‘universal truth’, like “The sun rises on the East”, or “Seasons follow each other”, or

“Ice is cold”…

,,, “End of summer and autumn is the harvest time of abundance”…

…”Cherries are nice, and art intensifies beauty”.

Your own desires and needs are the unique and pleasant truth about you…

When in bed: either before going to sleep or after awakening, you are free to think about your own wishes, secrets and best qualities. They are your truths!

If somebody does not understand or value you, then you live and communicate with the wrong type of person. It’s their problem, not yours!

Do not practice “affirmations”, created by gurus or other popular authors. Certainly, they created these affirmations for you and your wellness. But they are not yours.

It was discovered that individuals with low self-esteem actually felt worse about themselves after repeating positive self-statements, like: "I am a lovable person" (Wood et al., 2009). Paradoxically, low self-esteem individuals' moods fared better when they were allowed to have negative thoughts than when they were asked to focus exclusively on affirmative thoughts. Unreasonably positive self-statements, such as "I accept myself completely," can provoke contradictory thoughts in individuals with low self-esteem.

The best way to deal with your own truths is the following:
1. Explore your own needs in different life areas and turn your discoveries into pleasant truths about yourself.

My ebook “How to Create Love” will guide you (free report)

2. Caress yourself with pleasant truths:

- “My pleasant truth is that I need … and I will get it”
- My pleasant truth is that I do not like (smth or smb), and I need a better person (thing, quality), etc

Practice regularly, the results will surprise you

Scientific reference
Wood et al. Positive Self-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others. Psychological Science, 2009; DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2009.02370.x

Yours with pleasure,
Natalia Levis-Fox

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