Today we shall speak with you about two very important things, concerning love, sex and lovemaking. It is what we call ‘fucking’ and ‘loving’. Both things are good. Nevertheless, they differ in quality.
‘Fucking’ as pure sex – lust expression- is more like eating simple food (whatever you can find) for the reason of being ‘hungry’. It brings more ‘mechanical’ satisfaction, i.e. stomach is filled, rather than pleasure in all our human aspects.
‘Loving’ is more like a complex pleasure of enjoying tasty, delicious and juicy food, every portion of it. Lovemaking is more like erotic love, which encompasses such human aspects as delight of communication prior to intimate relationship, warmth, mutual understanding, total approval, absence of criticism and complete partner’s acceptance; incredible comfort in each other’s presence, joy and happiness, the feeling of ‘flight’ and easiness, desire to prolong contact in every form.
Erotic love expresses itself long before the sexual act as it is. It manifests itself with absolute friendly atmosphere between the two, the loving eyes of your partner, caressing your face, hands and appearance with affection, even without physical touch.
You completely forget about yourself! You stop wondering about what your partner thinks about you, or what impression you produce. You stop demonstrating yourself and play ‘do-I-look-good-for-you’ sort of games.
Erotic love combines both lust and incredible fondness, which we call ‘romantic love’ and long-term pair formation for pleasure being together.
The thing is that our bodies immediately recognize the best sexual and soul partner for us, before this information gets to our conscious understanding.
In the presence of our best love partner, even admiring their photographs, our nature releases a bouquet of substances through body, blood and brain. That is why we feel wonderful, looking forward to meet our beloved person.
Erotic lovemaking brings the partners into the state of ecstasy, when every touch, caressing lifts them to amazing mutual delight, lasting long…
After this highly agreeable sex love shameless experience, partners feel fascinating long lasting happiness. It all makes them impossible to part with each other.
If you have experience in reading and understanding scientific research on neurobiology to find the proofs and get the holistic picture of natural love processes, you can use the reference list of articles at the bottom of this post.
Next time we shall discuss “Pleasure” and “Violence”, their origin as the result of “Sensory Deprivation” from childhood across different cultures.
If you have difficulties in experiencing ecstatic feelings because of your shyness, we can talk over the phone and open your wonderful erotic love potential.
Just imagine, how your fantastically beautiful sensations will make your sex-love-making experience satisfying… before you decide to call.
I wish you all the pleasure you desire,
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