As people, we tend to understand other people and ourselves in different life situations. Most of us love to control everything going smoothly, as we have our own plans of how things must unfold.
Sometimes situations escape our control and develop in the most unpredictable ways. We do unusual things; we speak of something we did not plan to talk about.
When analyzing evening events and our own states afterwards (let us say in the morning), there arises criticism, uncertainty or even fear, as if we had done something wrong.
Each of us has the feeling, that there are two minds in us, the two “I”, contradicting each other. One “I” enjoys situations, people and pleasant states. The other “I” argues, contradicts and conflicts.
The “two of you” referred to are the conscious and subconscious minds.
Your conscious mind is the part of your mind that deals with reason and logic.
It is the director of your subconscious mind, which is the part of your mind that deals with energy and creation.
The subconscious mind is the universe itself. It supplies you with wonderful feelings, states, love, miracles and fabulous events. Thanks to your subconscious mind, you experience comfort, desires, easiness and lovely states in presence of the ‘right’ people. It allows you to read books and watch films with pleasure.
Your subconscious mind supplies you with energy and fresh ideas to do what you love, dreaming including. It never criticizes you or other people. You subconscious mind makes you feel good!
We seek to understand how everything works and to discover the explanation of every mystery that presents itself to us. We do it with our conscious mind.
You can never know everything consciously but you already know everything subconsciously.
The intelligence of your subconscious mind is infinitely far more than all the intelligence of your conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind works best when your conscious mind is asleep or pleasantly occupied. It happens when other people understand and value us the way we want to.
Our conscious and unconscious minds are very much like the autopilot and the pilot: they cannot control the plane at the same time.
The subconscious mind is always in harmony and never argues about anything.
Our conscious mind always tries to find explanation to events, words and behavior. It deals only with the known. It aims at organizing our experience and memory about it according to habitual logical structures, building walls around new meanings and pleasant experience.
If your conscious mind cannot accept what is happening because it reasons against it, then it will send a conflicting impression that will undo the first.
You may protest: how come! I hate the idea about my conscious mind interfering into my life, spoiling my best experiences! And you are right.
The sad truth is that under some circumstances in your childhood and adolescence, you or somebody else directed their will (part of conscious mind) to prohibit and prevent pleasant experiences (ex, sex, masturbation, lovely relationships). Directed into your physical body, this will keeps destroying your health, delightful emotions and sensations. So, in some situations this childish understanding and point of view interfere into your experience of a grown-up person with judgments, critics and doubts. You feel awful and exhausted.
This childish, immature mind often lies at the basis of pain, addictions and shaming you behaviors.
You can be highly professional, with well-organized logic and consciousness. But in personal life you may become a scared child, running out of danger.
What can be done to stop conflicts and live in peace, using both minds to advantage?
The first thing you can do today is to get rid of immature conscious mind from your physiology. Just say aloud:
“I intend to free my body from conscious will and conscious mind.
I ask (allow) biological intelligence to do it for me. Thank you!”
After saying these very important words – a command to your organism – forget about it and do not bother of how it will be done. It will be done only without your conscious control.
The second thing is to learn about emotional intelligence – set of concepts about satisfying relationships based on human physiology. As a result – to form own and pleasant concepts & ideas about your ideal life (in family, community, social group, etc). In this blog you can find plenty of articles and methods about lovely relationships and soul-mating.
Knowledge about conscious and unconscious minds will pour light into your understanding.
So, if you find yourself in the most unusual state of easiness, freedom, comfort and pleasure, and do not remember details - you were enjoying yourself in your wonderful subconscious mind. Do not even try to analyze the situation logically - you will loose the fabulous feeling from the universe. It was a gift for you from Heavens!
Life is challenging and knowledge protects your from stress and darkness.
P.S. Several concepts about two types of mind in this article came from E. Tan’s brilliant book “Reality Secrets”.